If you communicate in a passive-aggressive manner, you may say yes when you want to say no. You may be sarcastic or complain about others behind their backs. Rather than confront an issue directly, you may show your anger and feelings through your actions or negative attitude. You may have developed a passive-aggressive style because you're uncomfortable being direct about your needs and feelings.
If this sounds like you, we can help!
What are the drawbacks of a passive-aggressive communication style? Over time, passive-aggressive behavior damages relationships and undercuts mutual respect, thus making it difficult for you to get your goals and needs met.
Assertiveness is a manner of behaving that communicates respect for others as well as commands respect for yourself. When you are assertive, you are able to:
-Express and communicate your feelings accurately.
-Ask for things you want.
-Say no to things you do not want.
-Have the opportunity to have your needs and wants met.
-Attain the respect of others.
Just realize that learning to be assertive takes practice, and it's OKAY to make a few mistakes along the way. Despite what people tell you, you are human, so keep on trying these new skills. And if certain issues such as anger, stress, anxiety or fear are getting in your way, consider talking with a mental health provider. The payoff will be worth it. By becoming more assertive, you can begin to express your true feelings and needs more easily. You may even find that you get more of what you want as a result. 💪
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