by Maria Drohan, AS. Eng., MSW (Candidate), RSW
#1. Q - “Aren’t people just lying there on a couch?”
Well yes, some therapists have couches in their offices, but few will actually insist you lie down on it and look away from them. There are many offices with no couch too - only chairs and some tissue boxes. This perception of lying on a couch lingers because in the early beginnings of counseling, it was common for therapists to insist patients lie down on a couch and look away from them because they believed it made the patient more open, but it can really make it more difficult to bond with the therapist. But some people actually do prefer to recline or lie down on the couch to help them relax, and that’s okay! Most others simply prefer sitting face to face and talking. Ultimately, you should do whatever makes you feel comfortable so you can benefit fully from your session.
By Marianne Wylie, MSW, RSW
The relationship between client and therapist takes time and effort to build. Once you do feel comfortable, you will likely have shared very personal details about yourself, making it difficult to move on to another therapist.
By Linda Kelly, MSW, RSW
It never fails. I go to a party, someone finds out I’m a therapist, and drink in hand, they proceed to tell me about all the things that eventually make them cry while simultaneously insulting my profession. (“Quit psychoanalyzing me!”)
Do I make people cry? No. Do I attract vulnerability? Perhaps. I do listen, and people’s stories are always fascinating to me. But it’s not about me.
Alcohol lowers inhibitions, which means that the things that are hard to talk about always seem easier to address when you’re drinking. Who hasn’t used liquid courage to do something that was tough? This is the basis of most of our regrettable texts and snaps (or good old drunk-dialing).
But there’s more to it.
By Laura Groulx, BEd, MSW, RSW
Your first counselling session can be anxiety-provoking: you’re sitting with a stranger, in a quiet room, and talking about very personal issues and topics. You might feel incredibly vulnerable. However, know that anxiety in this situation is totally normal, so don’t let it stop you from attending!
The majority of people that push through that first session vulnerability and anxiety return for a follow-up. This means that the experience was worth it, and they desire to return and continue. When it comes to anxiety generally, it’s often the anticipatory unknown that causes distress. The purpose of this article is to help with just that, shed light on the unknown by exploring what to expect and ways you can prepare, in order to take away (at least some of!) the first counselling session jitters.
Written and Submitted by Lisa Smalls
Have you ever woken up and wondered, what the heck is going on? Nothing seems right. You are unfocused, lack motivation, and worse, you are cranky! While for some, these days are rare, for nearly 35% of Americans who sleep less than the recommended seven or more hours a night, you could be heading toward a path of mental illness.
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