By Linda Kelly, MSW, RSW
"I just can’t seem to concentrate on anything. I have so many things to do and I keep forgetting about them."
Enter the voice of reason. Hey, you’re going through something that is difficult. Although you may not see the effects on the outside, your mind is busy doing important work trying to make sense of what you’re going through.
If you have just lost someone, or experienced major change, tragedy, shock, or disappointment, your mind needs to process it. And like a computer, doing all of this processing is going to draw on your energy, which means you will have less of yourself available to do things you normally do. You will be short on energy, probably have a change of appetite (more hungry because you’re aching to refuel, or less hungry because you’re under too much stress to digest food), and changes in sleep patterns (again, more if you’re using too much energy and less if you’re too worked up to relax your body).
By Kristen Sohlman, HBA, RP
What are you holding on to? Is it hurt, fear, guilt, self-doubt, old beliefs, or even sadness? Then ask yourself this: is it worth letting go of what you are holding on to for the betterment of yourself or for the betterment of your life?
By letting go, you are acknowledging that what you have been holding on to is not helping you, is not helping you solve the problem, is not helping to change someone else, or is not helping you get what you want. Holding on does not serve you well. In all actuality, by holding on, you may be blocking yourself from what you actually want, need, and deserve.
Stop trying to control situations and outcomes. Perhaps in the past it served you to control people or circumstances as it was not safe, or your rights were not being met. When you rely on yourself, you can put forth trust and let things happen as they should. Life can unfold as it should. You are strong enough and good enough to have a better life. You do not need to do any better, to be any better, or to be more than you are. Who you were in the past was good enough for that day and who you are today is good enough for today.
By Linda Kelly, MSW, RSW, TITC-CT
I wish people knew how much control they have over how they feel. Life is not about what happens to us, but about how we perceive our experiences. Our story is created in the way we define it, and this story is about how to take control of the thoughts that hold us back.
I’ve always wanted to do something important. As a kid, I dreamt of singing in front of thousands of people, writing books, and inspiring and motivating others to create a better world. But I didn’t. At least, I haven’t yet (fingers crossed!). When given opportunities, I let my pounding heart and shortness of breath convince me that it was safer to pass rather than speak up.
By Kristen Sohlman, HBA, RP
The snow and ice have melted, and nature begins to rejuvenate with life. With the change in season, many people become inspired to do some spring cleaning around the house to be rid of what is stored over the winter, to shake off the cobwebs, to start anew, and to organize their homes. Why not spring clean for mental health too! Spring clean your mental and emotional space and be rid of mental or emotional debris that is no longer effectively serving you. Start out the season by refreshing your current state of mind with a renewed outlook on life.
How to Start Spring Cleaning for Mental Health:
By: Maria Forget, Social Work Student
Criticism can be difficult to hear, especially when we take pride in what we do. It is hard not to take criticism personally since it could be incredibly specific and not always positive. As humans, we tend to jump to the worst-case scenario and lean towards the negative side of matters. Some of us may focus on the negative, as one negative word said has the potential to outshine the positive. This can create hurt feelings, even though the criticism was not intended to be taken personally.
Even though you may feel you’re putting forth your best efforts, it is almost impossible to be perfect. Criticism should be expected. Some individuals may take criticism constructively and learn from it, while others may feel defeated, resentful, or unfairly targeted. While reactions to criticism vary, you are not helpless because of it. If you feel as though you are especially sensitive to criticism, you came to the right place. I will be discussing some points through personal experience and observations on how one could accept criticism constructively, and why they should.
How one could accept criticism constructively:
Why is it important to accept criticism constructively?
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