By Elizabeth Perzan, MSW, RSW
Valentine’s Day does not have to be a reminder of your single relationship status, or the fact that your partner cannot be with you this February 14th.
Being solo on Valentine’s Day can actually be empowering! Use today as a reminder that there are many advantages to being single or unaccompanied. For example, think of all the money you will save. And you are free from the awkward, mandatory gift exchange (heart-shaped jewellery that no one ever wears?).
You are granted the right to celebrate this day the way you want. Think of today as an opportunity to practice some much needed self-care. You can go to the gym, have a sauna, or enjoy a good book while embracing a warm cup of coffee or tea. Spend some time with a friend or family. You can even control what you want to binge-watch on Netflix. Maybe even babysit for another couple; give them a chance to have a special night to themselves.
Spending Valentine’s Day by yourself can be less stressful in general. You don’t have to worry about the “perfect” date, and there will be no disappointment if said date doesn’t go according to plan. Not to mention skipping out on the crowds and chaos, as well as zero pressure to dress up (pajamas at 6:30pm?Here I come). And don’t forget! No judgement when you purchase that V-Day sale candy (added bonus – you don’t have to share).
Bottom line: let today inspire you to learn to be happy with yourself, no matter your relationship status. Valentine's Day is a made-up holiday anyways. YOU are all that you really need.
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