By Kelly Graham, MSW, RSW
Have things ever been going so well in your life that you start wondering, when is it going to end? When is something bad going to happen? This happiness is too good to last. Well, you’re not alone. This is a common thought to have, especially when people have faced difficult times in their life and aren’t used to good things happening to them. The good news is that just because you’re thinking this, doesn’t mean that anything bad is actually going to happen.
Change is the only thing that is a constant in life. This can be scary, especially when things are going well for us. You don’t want things to change; you want to stay this happy forever. Just because things are going to change, doesn’t mean that it’s necessarily for the worst or that you won’t still be happy. You might be even happier!
One of my favourite quotes that I try and live by comes from the Dalai Lama. He said, “if a problem is fixable, if a situation is such that you can do something about it, then there is no need to worry. If it's not fixable, then there is no help in worrying. There is no benefit in worrying whatsoever.” By worrying about what is going to happen, and when something bad is going to happen, it takes away from the happiness you are feeling. That's right: You are unintentionally self-sabotaging your happiness by worrying about when it is going to end. You become so scared that you can’t enjoy what is making you happy.
So how can you stop worrying and enjoy your life?
While life has its ups and downs, have hope that you can make it through the rough times to get to the good times. If we never had hardships in our life, then we wouldn’t be able to appreciate the good times. And even if not everything in life is making you happy, appreciate what is. Take time to be grateful for the happiness you have found. If we know what makes us happy, then we can fight to keep that in our lives. Our happiness is important, and as long as something is continuing to make us happy, it is worth making time for. So, enjoy your happiness and live in the moment, life is a wild ride, and we never know where it will take us.
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